ENVY: WHY HIM, AND NOT ME?

Do you remember that day when your friend, or relative, or neighbor achieved a good result, and you were happy for him? I guess you do. And how was the feeling? I guess your emotion toward him was pure and positive. You were grateful and joyful on his behalf. And that’s a beautiful feeling everyone will love to have. Because, it makes you feel happily good.

But……. How about that moment when the achievement of your friend or relative or your neighbor, instead of making you happy, ate you up like rust eating up a metal? And what were the symptoms? You felt angry, hostile, and resentful. And in the end, you became anxious and depressed. And what was the reason? You thought it should have been your achievement, and not your friend’s. At that moment, there was only one well you could dig from. The well of envy.

When you feel ill about your friend’s achievement, or feel happy about his downfall, know for sure that the spirit of envy has taken over you. But I guess you have an important purpose to pursue that, you wouldn’t want to destroy yourself. Because envy destroys. And its end is sure.

Envy blinds you and makes you count other people’s blessings instead of yours. If you were to really focus on your blessings and count them, I’m sure you’ll be both a sure candidate for celebration and that for testimony next Sunday.

But you’re so preoccupied with your friend’s possessions, achievements and superiority that you forget your own. And you eat yourself up, as if by that, you’ll make progress. And as if by that, the achievements or possessions of your friend will change hands and come to you. By this, you despise what you have and, therefore, become ungrateful. Even God, is unhappy with such people. Many people also suffer inferiority complex not because of anything. But because of envy.

Because, the surest short-cut to inferiority is envy.

And as Samuel Johnson said, “Whoever envies another confesses his superiority.”

Envy is a self-focus issue. Just like Jean Vanier asserted,” Envy comes from people’s ignorance of, or lack of belief in their own gifts.” Each of us has something to give that no one else has. And that’s how God made it. He wants no one to envy the other. That’s why He built everyone a unique vessel. But until you can identify, believe and focus on your uniqueness, sharpen your gifts and produce the environment you desire, you’ll end up focusing on other people’s achievements, possessions, superiority and opportunities. And envy will rule you.

Your friend or neighbor you envy does just something simple. He focuses on himself and proves his worth. It was Yvonne Pierre who advised,

“Stop worrying about someone taking your spot. God already have it reserved. Do the work to get there and fill it.”

If you refuse to be a “doer”, but rather settle to watch others do, envy will be inescapable. Because, “The few who do are the envy of the many who only watch” said Jim Rohn.

Your friend worked and got the job. And he prepared and got married. And he promoted himself first and got promoted on his job. He also worked on his marriage and made his home a beautiful place to be. In fact, none of his achievements came by envy. So why do you think you can get yours by envying him?

Out of the numerous people you’ve envied so far, what did you get in exchange?

Envy never helps you inherit a possession. But it makes you sick.

Anything anyone has, he worked for it. He earned it. People produce their worth. And you too can. Therefore, whatever you desire to have, search out the how of it, focus on yourself, bring your creativity to bear and produce it. And then you wouldn’t have to be sick with envy, as if the result comes that way.

Envy is a cheat on your worth.  And if you have anybody to blame, blame your lack of self-focus.

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2 thoughts on “ENVY: WHY HIM, AND NOT ME?

  1. Awolba Baba Jones May 7, 2022 — 7:37 pm

    That’s tremendous, thank you

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    1. I’m very much grateful boss.

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